可能爱情的起因简单,心动而情深种,没有为什么,只有结果。但是婚姻,虽说是爱情的产物,但是却复杂多了,有时候甚至自己的婚姻自己做不了主。这种情况不止发生在以前,现在同样存在。
爱情里,只需要彼此看对眼,只要呆在一起都是开心的。可能彼此有着很大的不同,可能正是因为那不同而互相吸引。因为从小生活的环境所影响,你身边的朋友圈大多都是相似的人,有着相似的认知。只是,人总是喜欢寻找新鲜感,当一个人和你身边的人群完全不一样时,你会一下子被吸引。
电视里那么多灰姑娘的故事,都是因为那不同而被吸引,想让生活多一点不同。彼此相爱时,都拼命的想了解彼此的不同,体验一下彼此不同的生活方式,感觉原来人生还可以这么过。毕竟,爱情本身就美好,而又不需参杂太多的社会因素,只因为爱所以才一起。
但是,如果步入婚姻后,虽然依旧是两个人在一起,但是,此时才是真正的融入彼此的生活环境,接受彼此生活里的人,一旦人多了起来,矛盾会不时碰撞。本来,一个人的生活习惯和人生观早就已经形成了,基本难得改。尤其婚姻后,太多的琐事需要彼此协调,太多的责任需要去承担,矛盾就开始发生。
比如,金钱观,交友观,人生观,等等,你会发现,生活中的事越来越多的无法统一观点。如果一方妥协了还好,如果彼此都不想让,都认为自己的才是正确的,生活还如何维持正常。一个家庭,做任何一件事情,只能选择一个观点,不然,心会越走越散。

所以,婚姻里的门当户对总是需要的,一样的家庭背景会有一样的价值观和人生观,在经营自己新建的家庭时,总能保持朝同一个方向思考。这对于婚姻很重要,不但是少了许多争执,会有更多的精力去为家庭创造价值。更长远来说,彼此的心会越来越近,互相扶持,婚姻才能走的长久,彼此才会变的更好。
Love is an essential human attribute, which matures as individual matures. Marriage is a natural and extremely effective milieu for the development of love. So the love between a man and a woman leads to a marriage. Marriage brings about a family. The family provides a framework for each family member to grow as a person in love and security. So it is reasonable to say that marriage is a bridge of love and family.
Love is the base of marriage, and marriage is the development of love. In the past, people used to marry without their own consent, that is, without their own experience of love, the parents arranged the marriage. Two persons, a man and a woman, who were entirely strangers, were united in wedlock, and became husband and wife. They had known nothing of each other before, and of course, love was a sealed book to both. This type of marriage often leads to unhappiness. Tragic stories about ill-matched couples were often heard. So love is the foundation of marriage, and a marriage without love won’t be a happy one. And nowadays, with the development of society, love becomes more noble, rich, fine and subtle.
Therefore, love is sometimes romantic; the lovers don’t pay too much attention to the trivial of daily life. Some people fall in love at first sight and rush into marriage. They usually neglect the commitment a marriage demands. They may come across with some problems in their marriage that is likely to end up with a divorce. This seems to prove that love in a marriage is not so romantic as one often imagines, but as practical as mutual respect and compromise in the common life of a family. Family in this sense is the extension of marriage. A family based on a marriage may last if it fulfills the function of reproduction. However, nothing can be more effective for a family to fulfill its function than love. Love between a husband and a wife, love between parents and children and love between all the family members can pave the way for all the family to a bright future.
The families that could survive the hardships and develop from generation to generation are characterized by love and harmony. In a word, love is the base of marriage and family. One famous man once said,“ In a world of existence, there is indeed no greater power than the power of love.” In a marriage, love needs to be manifested in a cooperative and sharing manner. And with a happy marriage, the family will be happy.
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